A thought it was an everlasting relationship between people who were kept in mind some sort of equalities and tied up with an invisible string of love, that couldn’t be snapped by any reason, and could find some time to find some time to be in touch with; whatever the circumstances may be and should have a tendency to share the grieves in between. It should not be a manifestation or mere correlation of two, but there should have a correspondency. All these were my view about friendship earlier, but as I came through the real life, I found it’s contradictions was really exists.
It’s as simple as a street speech to say the relationship should be strong and unbreakable. But in the flow of life who is getting some time to spend for others, and who bothers to share there grieves with others? As the life taken as a challenge or a game to be won, even very seconds we spent with others sharing all these and taking care of words spelled in a rush may worth a lot. I’m not for an argument with dreamers. But in fact, the word friendship works out only there, where is only a mood of happiness and stress free hearts exists, not in a place of grieves or pangs. Thus it proves itself that the friendship is for the celebration of events and victories, not for the sharing of grieves or loss.
Just think, who will have some time to keep in a part of other’s problems and sadness, and what is really sadness? It is nothing but the lack of power to came up from falls, or the incapability to face the life with a positive mentality. As we accept the life packed up with ups and downs we are acquiring a power to face our loss and victories as equal—with a smile in lips— and takes necessary steps forwards to get up from the failure; not to bother friends as waverers. Leave them their own way and we have our best time with them, as we me meet our goals, or relaxation from the stress on way. Let the meetings for sharing the joys added with the flavor of wit, instead of thinking you loss your friends in rush of life or they are busy to take care of you, or even they are selfish in their way to spend their time with you when you are in problems. Then you will never feel like they avoid you.
I am not advising you to think in their part, but you can understand it by thinking your own stand, just by asking a few questions yourself. Instead of telling your pangs to your friends, could you ever find some time to be a part of their problems? If the answer is ‘Yes’, you are having a good friends circle and there will have no reason to say you are missing your friends, because many of us likes to keep in touch with such a friend who cares our problems and advising and leading us to a right path. Contradictorily, if your answer is ‘you have your own problems to solve or share’, it is obviously understood, why did you felt loss as your best friend said last time he / she was busy to chat with you, that you are just interested in manifestation of your problems but not interested in others’ situations. As you think yourself as a big loss, you feel yourself a sort of hero image. But your problems are only yours and if someone gives interest in it, you have to understand that it was his investment to gain something out of you, because even you pay no interest in others’ problems.
How long you think about others? If you can answer sincerely, you could understand yourself, to get attention or frame yourself was all your need and not with an intimacy or love with your friends, otherwise, you should have to understand their problems too, instead of cursing them to missing them.
It’s a recent trend among youngsters to send SMS like “I miss you”. What lies in these words are not the intimacy at all, but the sender’s mood of laziness or lack of jobs to do. It’s only then, when we are all free from assignments, we are thinking of others and ‘missing’ them. If you are filled up your minutes with assignments how can you miss others? How can you get time to think of your friends? Thus the feel of ‘missing’ is the devil of your own soul. That devil gets you only into troubles. You gets forced yourself into the thoughts like the meaningless of life and such sophisticated feelings of dreamers. That gets you nothing worthy, but despondency and lassitude. Instead, if you could expel your ill feelings and perplexities, and being occupied with your business, you can find your heights and thus you will get your friends’ attention and intimacy automatically, because as like you yourself, your friends are also like to be happy and if you tries to feed them with your pangs, they will feel their time with you as waste as they are also tired with their jobs and looking for relaxation. Now onwards, drive out or gulp back your devil inside you and keep a smile in your lips and a bit of wit in your heart. Then onwards your friends and frame will come to you and you will miss them no more.